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The Right Age to Have Children

Written by: wme_admin | Date: 21/12/2015

When is the right time to have children? Is it when you are young and fresh and bouncy? Or is it when you are more mature with greater life experiences and are more secure?

It seems this question is often asked but there is never a simple answer. A fact quite typical of most parenting questions!

The average age of Australian first time mums today is 28.2. This is just an average and represents the largest percentage of first time mums. There are also the minority extremes which impact this average, such as teen pregnancies, and much older mums in their 40’s.

So has Australia got it right? Is 28.2 the best time to have a baby or are you better off having them at the start of your adulthood, or the middle?

Being an older mum giving birth to my first little ray of sunshine at the ripe old age of 40 I can say with confidence that there are definite advantages and disadvantages to being an older mum.

The advantages for me were I didn’t have the yearnings to go out and party in between feeds like I would had I conceived in my 20’s. I was happy to stay at home as I was past the age of needing to ‘go out’. I was also more financially secure and had the obligatory travels under my belt.
However, I felt every minute of my 40 years when I had to get up every few hours to feed. I didn’t cope with the sleeplessness as well as all the other mums in my mothers group who were 10+ years younger than me.
I also felt awful guilt that I would never be a cool young mum to my kids. That people would be looking at me with my kids and assume I was their young grandma. That I would be 60+ at their 21st’s. That I would die of old age possibly before meeting my grandchildren.

Oh the guilt.

This guilt was such a stupid and pointless thing to feel as of course all my children need is a loving and supportive mum regardless of my age. But you tend to feel guilt over the tiniest most ridiculous things when you are a new mum.

I was rocked out of my guilt one day when I read a comment on Facebook by a mum answering this very question. She said it was a ridiculous question to ask and that there was no single perfect age and the only difference between her (a young mum) and an older mum is that she looks hotter.

As I read this, I thought to myself, who’s to say that I am not hotter than her????

I mean, I would have to say that Sonia Kruger at 47 is one very hot mama and would be hard to beat in the hotness stakes by anyone at any age.

With this in mind, my answer to this age old (see what I did there?) question is, the perfect age to have children is the age YOU were when YOU conceived. Your body and the miracle of conception made the decision for you and you stood to the challenge and became the best mum you can be.

Who cares if you are the youngest or the oldest in your mother’s group. Who cares if you are mistaken for your child’s sister, or grandma?

The only thing that matters is that you are their mum. Their one and only mum. That is what matters.

Courtney, Cambridge Gardens, NSW

I just wanted to say a huge 'thank you' for my lovely chevron beanbags for my twin boys which arrived today!

I only ordered them on Monday night and was thrilled to receive them today! (I live in the Sydney region).

Excellent service, super speedy delivery and a gorgeous product!

Will definitely be recommending you to my friends 😀😀

Robin, Cargenie, Victoria

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2015-12-21T10:15:37+00:00

Robin, Cargenie, Victoria

I just wanted to say a huge 'thank you' for my lovely chevron beanbags for my twin boys which arrived today! I only ordered them on Monday night and was thrilled to receive them today! (I live in the Sydney region). Excellent service, super speedy delivery and a gorgeous product! Will definitely be recommending you to my friends

Tegan B via Facebook reviews

I have bought a beanbag, elephant playmat and the owl nightlight. They're all amazing quality!

Perfect for my little grey and white nursery.

I couldn't be happier with my purchases.

The option of afterpay is brilliant and takes away a lot of stress, shipping is fast .

Not to mention; It feels even better buying from an Australian owned business. (Complete with a hand written thank you note from Kelly on the invoice)

I would recommend this company to anyone.
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2017-02-20T10:01:37+00:00
I have bought a beanbag, elephant playmat and the owl nightlight. They're all amazing quality! Perfect for my little grey and white nursery. I couldn't be happier with my purchases. The option of afterpay is brilliant and takes away a lot of stress, shipping is fast . Not to mention; It feels even better buying from an Australian owned business. (Complete with a hand written thank you note from Kelly on the invoice) I would recommend this company to anyone.

Judy, Hampton, Victoria

I bought this bag for when my granddaughter comes over to play.
She loves to sit in it on the back porch and watch the birds in the trees.

Judy, Hampton, Victoria

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2016-01-15T03:05:43+00:00

Judy, Hampton, Victoria

I bought this bag for when my granddaughter comes over to play. She loves to sit in it on the back porch and watch the birds in the trees.

Trish, Clayton, Vic

Kelly I cannot thank you enough for your assistance and patience.
Your after sales service was brilliant. If only all businesses could provide the
same level of after sales service life would be so much easier.
Especially when you are a tired and confused new mum!

Trish, Clayton, Vic

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2016-01-15T03:07:04+00:00

Trish, Clayton, Vic

Kelly I cannot thank you enough for your assistance and patience. Your after sales service was brilliant. If only all businesses could provide the same level of after sales service life would be so much easier. Especially when you are a tired and confused new mum!

Mel, Albion Park, NSW

I have just received my parcel I ordered from you less then 24hrs ago!

I also wanted to thank you for the amazing service you provide, and the quality of products you supply.
I was desperate to have my purchase delivered before friday and with your advice and assistance you made this possible.

Thank you once again for all that you do for your customers, you obviously have a great passion for what you do and your customer base.
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2016-04-27T12:03:16+00:00
I have just received my parcel I ordered from you less then 24hrs ago! I also wanted to thank you for the amazing service you provide, and the quality of products you supply. I was desperate to have my purchase delivered before friday and with your advice and assistance you made this possible. Thank you once again for all that you do for your customers, you obviously have a great passion for what you do and your customer base.

Kelly S via Facebook

What fantastic service! Ordered my beanbag and lamb rug bundle on Monday & it arrived this morning (Thursday), thank you! I really liked being kept up to date with the delivery process 😊 can't wait to give it to my sister at her baby shower next weekend!
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2016-05-27T11:38:32+00:00
What fantastic service! Ordered my beanbag and lamb rug bundle on Monday & it arrived this morning (Thursday), thank you! I really liked being kept up to date with the delivery process 😊 can't wait to give it to my sister at her baby shower next weekend!

Katrina

Thank you Kelly for your wonderful customer service, responsiveness to my enquiries and beautiful products.
You have been an absolute pleasure to deal with and I highly recommend your online store.
I love my little photo albums (and other keepsakes) and I am sure I will be able to fill them very quickly with pictures of my little girl. Thank you again.

Katrina

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2016-01-15T03:09:22+00:00

Katrina

Thank you Kelly for your wonderful customer service, responsiveness to my enquiries and beautiful products. You have been an absolute pleasure to deal with and I highly recommend your online store. I love my little photo albums (and other keepsakes) and I am sure I will be able to fill them very quickly with pictures of my little girl. Thank you again.

Niky, Norville QLD

My little one loves his teddy bear play mat and sleeps on it all the time.

Basically anytime he's sleeping while I'm not in bed, he's on his bear mat.

Ever since he got it he doesn't like sleeping in his bouncer anymore.

Thank you for such great service and all your help with phone calls and holding products ect and super fast delivery as well.
KJ Essentials
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2016-08-31T10:20:41+00:00
My little one loves his teddy bear play mat and sleeps on it all the time. Basically anytime he's sleeping while I'm not in bed, he's on his bear mat. Ever since he got it he doesn't like sleeping in his bouncer anymore. Thank you for such great service and all your help with phone calls and holding products ect and super fast delivery as well.

Jessica, Picton

I just want to thank you for you super fast postage of "ewan the sleep sheep ' 😀 love it ! And your personalised note topped it off 😀 Great quality, great service

Jessica, Picton

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2016-01-15T03:09:40+00:00

Jessica, Picton

I just want to thank you for you super fast postage of "ewan the sleep sheep ' 😀 love it ! And your personalised note topped it off 😀 Great quality, great service

SH, Marookna, QLD

Beautiful bean bag and great quality too.
I am so very happy with my purchase.
Thanks for the quick delivery too.

SH, Marookna, QLD

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2016-01-15T03:04:57+00:00

SH, Marookna, QLD

Beautiful bean bag and great quality too. I am so very happy with my purchase. Thanks for the quick delivery too.

Melissa via Mum’s Say (Kidspot)

The baby bean bag is a fantastic new concept that is a great alternative to a bouncer. An item that will grow with my daughter for years to come.
The product has been well researched and the workmanship/fabric is of high quality.

Melissa via Mum's Say (Kidspot)

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2016-01-15T03:06:44+00:00

Melissa via Mum's Say (Kidspot)

The baby bean bag is a fantastic new concept that is a great alternative to a bouncer. An item that will grow with my daughter for years to come. The product has been well researched and the workmanship/fabric is of high quality.

Janine, Salisbury, SA

I bought the KJ Essentials plush lamb play mat for my little girl and it is one of our favourite things!

We love that you can just throw it in the wash so that she always has a clean soft place to lie and play on.

It is awesome for tummy time as the non slip backing keeps it in place while she is rocking and rolling and head banging and the padding stops her from knocking her head every time she drops it.

When we aren't using it, we keep it her nursery for looks - it is the cutest floor rug!

We also take it to places like mothers group meetings and to grans so that we know
she has a home comfort that is safe and hygenic and comfy

Kidspot Independent Review

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2016-01-15T03:08:03+00:00

Kidspot Independent Review

I bought the KJ Essentials plush lamb play mat for my little girl and it is one of our favourite things! We love that you can just throw it in the wash so that she always has a clean soft place to lie and play on. It is awesome for tummy time as the non slip backing keeps it in place while she is rocking and rolling and head banging and the padding stops her from knocking her head every time she drops it. When we aren't using it, we keep it her nursery for looks - it is the cutest floor rug! We also take it to places like mothers group meetings and to grans so that we know she has a home comfort that is safe and hygenic and comfy

‘Orlsy’ Carrum Downs, Vic

I purchased a gorgeous blue bean bag for my friend at work.
I was able to pick up the bean bag, already filled, en-route to the baby shower!
The mum-to-be absolutely loved the bean bag, and her little boy looks divine in it now!
Highly recommended :)

'Orlsy' Carrum Downs, Vic

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2016-01-15T03:06:21+00:00

'Orlsy' Carrum Downs, Vic

I purchased a gorgeous blue bean bag for my friend at work. I was able to pick up the bean bag, already filled, en-route to the baby shower! The mum-to-be absolutely loved the bean bag, and her little boy looks divine in it now! Highly recommended :)
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